Sometimes we think that lumpy dirt…
It’ll happen. And if any expert, doctor, guru, or speaker efforts to convince you otherwise – run for your hills and KEEP RUNNING.
Because it’ll happen to everyone, “feeling bad” is an element of the human experience. The truth is, you will have times where the world thinks down… depressed… upset… or angry.
It’ll happen, the question becomes the length of time do we stay there and just how frequently can it happen.
There is definitely an insidious kind of feeling bad though. It’s a nasty pattern that drags people into feeling a whole lot worse… And now principals are finally shining a bright spotlight onto this debilitating pattern.
Here it really is:
It’s that you feel bad… about feeling bad.
Sad about feeling sad.
Depressed about feeling depressed.
Guilty about feeling guilty.
Anxious about feeling anxious.
It’s a psychological double-whammy.
Because we’re not just feeling bad but judging inside us the process. It’s piling guilt to the negative emotion that we’re already feeling. Ouch!
And now studies have finally started getting more popualr to the consequences.
A study completed by the University of California, published through the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology took 1,300 adults inside the Denver and San Francisco area to think about the connection between psychological health insurance accepting emotions.
Here’s what one from the researchers, Brett Ford, found:
“People who accept these emotions without judging or attempting to change options are able to take care of their stress more successfully.”
I believe Sir Ford.
It’s important most notably to be honest in regards to the emotion you feel.
Not to see yourself, I should not be feeling that way… I really should not be struggling with this… I should not be reacting using this method… This should not be a good deal…
The fact on the matter is – you feel bad! And that’s okay. It doesn’t mean that you are week. Or broken. Or something is wrong along with you.
You can trim yourself some slack compared to beating yourself up because doing so happens to people (Even if you don’t publicly find it from others)
So accept the emotion you really feel.
It does NOT mean you will need to stay there for too long.
It does NOT mean you’re settling.
It does NOT mean you’re giving up.
It just means that you are recognizing the sensation for what it’s.
Then you wield control of it… then you can certainly try to put it back.
But once you stack guilt. And judge yourself for feeling bad this is when things turn from bad to worse.
P.S. One neat strategy to overcome anxiety and negative emotions FAST is really a special kind of breathing that “turns off” the fear-center on the brain (referred to as “Amygdala”)… lowers hypertension… and provide you mental clarity. And it can doing all this all in approximately 42-seconds. It was discovered by the leading high-performance psychologist.